Build a life on shared goals and mutual respect.
Lavender Union connects people looking for a lavender marriage: a committed, platonic partnership for companionship, family, finances, or the life you want to present to the world.
Free to join. 18+ only. Phone verification required.
A partnership designed around what you both need.
Historically, a lavender marriage was a union that let two people live their lives on their own terms. Today it can mean many things: a best friend to build a home with, a co-parent, a financial and legal partner, or a spouse who understands the expectations of family and community.
Lavender Union is built for people who want to be upfront about that from the very first conversation.
- Companionship & platonic partnership – someone to share daily life with.
- Co-parenting & family building – raise children with a committed partner.
- Social & family expectations – navigate public life together.
- Financial & legal partnership – shared stability, benefits and planning.
How it works
From sign-up to your first conversation in a few minutes.
Create your profile
Tell us what you're looking for, your expectations for living arrangements, finances and public life, and answer a few prompts.
Verify your phone
A one-time code keeps the community real. Your number is private and never shown on your profile.
Discover compatible people
Filter by who you're interested in, age and distance, and check each person's compatibility score.
Match and talk
When you both like each other it's a match. You have 72 hours to start chatting for free, or unlimited time with Premium.
Made for honest partnerships
Everything is designed around clarity, safety and discretion.
Compatibility score
Every profile shows a score built from what actually matters in a partnership of convenience: your goals, living and financial expectations, and how you want to present publicly.
Verified members
Every account is verified with a real phone number before it can join, so you're talking to people, not bots.
Conversations with intent
When you match, you have 72 hours to start talking for free. It nudges everyone to reach out instead of collecting matches.
Discretion built in
Hide your profile from Discover with one switch. Your email and phone number are never shown to other members.
Profiles with depth
Photos, prompts about finances, home life and dealbreakers, plus video and a voice clip for Premium members.
Practical resources
State-by-state links to marriage laws, LGBTQ+ protections, lawyer referrals and counseling, and a sample prenuptial agreement.
Simple pricing
Start free. Upgrade when you want more.
Free
$0
Forever
- 25 likes per day
- 72-hour messaging window per match
- Up to 4 photos
- Compatibility scores
- Undo your last pass
- Ad-supported in the Android app
Annual Premium
$37.99 / year
Save 20% · about $3.17 a month
- Unlimited likes
- See who likes you
- Unlimited messaging with matches
- Up to 8 photos and 2 videos
- Voice clip on your profile
- 3 profile boosts every month
- Undo your last 3 passes, read receipts
- No ads
Monthly Premium
$3.99 / month
Cancel anytime
- Every Premium feature
- Billed monthly
- Cancel anytime
Founding members: the first 500 people to join get 3 months of Premium free. Prices in USD. Premium is purchased in the Android app through Google Play, renews automatically until cancelled, and works on the web too. We never see your card details.
Questions
Is Lavender Union only for LGBTQ+ people?
No. Anyone 18 or older who wants a committed, non-romantic partnership is welcome. Many members are LGBTQ+, and the app is built to be a safe and discreet place for them.
Who can see my profile?
Only signed-in, phone-verified members. You can hide your profile from Discover at any time, and your email address and phone number are never shown to anyone.
How is the compatibility score calculated?
It compares what you're each looking for, your expectations around living arrangements, finances and public life, the lifestyle topics in your bio and prompts, and whether you're each interested in the other's gender.
Is there a mobile app?
Lavender Union works in any modern browser on your phone or computer today, and an Android app is coming to Google Play. Your account and Premium work in both.
Can Lavender Union give legal or immigration advice?
No. Our resources point you to lawyers, counselors and official sources. Please talk to a qualified professional before making legal or financial commitments.
More answers on the Support page.
Your partnership, your terms.
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